Mother's Occupation
A woman renewing her
driver's license at the County Clerk's office was asked by the woman recorder to state her
occupation.
Emily had hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.
"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are
you just a .....?"
"Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother."
"We don't list 'mother' as an occupation... 'housewife' covers it," said
the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation,
this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient,
and possessed of a high sounding title like "Official Interrogator" or
"Town Registrar."
"What is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it, I do not know. The words simply popped out. "I'm a
Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had
not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then
I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official
questionnaire.
"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in
your field?"
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have
a continuing program of research (what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field
(normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters (the whole darned
family) and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the
most demanding in the humanities (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours
a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most
run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just
money."
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the
form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career. I was greeted by
my lab assistants - ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (a
6 month old baby) in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I
felt triumphant! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official
records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another
mother."
Motherhood...what a glorious career. Especially when there's a title on the door.