Divorce Recovery

Life isn't about keeping score.
It's not about how many friends you have
Or how accepted you are.
Not about if you have plans this weekend
Or if you're alone.
It isn't about whom you're dating,
Whom you used to date,
And how many people you've dated,
Or if you haven't dated anyone at all.

It isn't about who your family is
Or how much money they have
Or what kind of car you drive.
Or where you are sent to school.
It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are.
Or what clothes you wear, what shoes you have on,
Or what kind of music you listen to.

It's not about if your hair is blonde,
Red, black, or brown,
Or if your skin is too light or too dark.
Not about what grades you get, how smart you are,
How smart everybody else thinks you are,
Or how smart standardized tests say you are.

It's not about what clubs you're in
Or how good you are at "your" sport.
It's not about representing your whole being
On a piece of paper and
Seeing who will "accept the written you."

Rather,
Life is about whom you love and whom you hurt.
It's about whom you make
Happy or Unhappy purposefully.
It's about keeping or betraying trust.
It's about friendship, used as sanctity or a weapon.

It's about what you say and mean,
Maybe hurtful, maybe heartening.
About starting rumors
And contributing to petty gossip.
It's about what judgments you pass and why.
And who your judgments are spread to.

It's about whom you've ignored
With full control and intention.
It's about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge.
It's about carrying inner hate and love,
Letting it grow, and spreading it.

But most of all, it's about using your life
To touch or poison other people's hearts
In such a way that could have never occurred alone.
Only you choose the way those hearts are affected,
And those choices are what life's all about.